Rights of Passage

In the throes of the fires you may encounter on your way through life, you may be faced with a flame which burns you into a crisp of your former self and makes you experience each of the following all at the same time;
Non-acceptance, Lack of self-worth, Loss of confidence and Imbalance.
Sometimes, it's just circumstance that puts you there; such moments can temporarily seem like Forever. But you can, whatever the situation, set yourself upright again and walk on by. You might need a counsellor, you might need a coach, or you might just need a good friend to help you through a rough patch. Whatever your chosen route, we've all hit points in our lives when these inner negatives come calling to be addressed.  

Some would say that at some point in time, all relationships can have these effects - if they didn't, you wouldn't be feeling anything. Relationships involve an element of conflict, a shifting power-base where no-one wants to even admit there's a power struggle, aspects of challenge, habits you want to change in them but have to put up with instead, things you'd like to have but can't get. Relationships are rarely an easy ride if there's any longevity attached. But there's one kind of love that can crash you to the floor without any apparent reason. A kind of loving that clutches your heart like a limpet clings to a rock. No matter where you go or what you do or for how long you are absent from the equation, this love refuses to lie down and die. This love is called, by popular demand, "Twin Flame". If you're burned by a Twin Flame (TF), you may have to get out of the furnace fast. But even so, that love won't leave you. You will feel the same way about that person for as long as you breathe air. Along with being burned, you've been branded.

Most affairs of the heart will walk on by with a fond or frosty farewell and the two can look back after twenty years and say, "Wasn't that nice? We won't be going back there since we don't feel the same way about each other any more, but I could have a coffee with you if I met you in the street, and chat about old times. We can laugh about it now."

The conversation might be somewhat different with a TF. Something like this:
"What the hell happened there? We won't be going back, I'm not letting you anywhere near me while I can think straight. Coffee? You've got to be joking. I'm not looking into your eyes again, it's not worth the risk. Want to chat about old times? Call me. No, you won't be calling me, will you? We can laugh about that now."
Or, on the other hand, you might fall straight back into each other and take the consequences.

The Twin Flame dynamic is a mutual opening of hearts that comes with a great deal of pain and purging from the very depths of your soul. One of the parties may purport that Depth isn't their thing and run as fast as quicksand will allow into the arms of shallow water. However that may be, you cannot avoid the long-term impact of Twin Flame love, or the tenacious quality this particular energy has. Several decades later, your feelings for each other will not have changed one jot and while Union (the merging of TFs into 3D-togetherness mode) may never happen, your growth and spirituality is aligned within that love. For it acts as a mirror, making you search for the roots of non-acceptance, lack of self-worth and the other characteristics you're pressed hard to analyse so that you can do something about them and develop within yourself.

And there's one more thing about TFs.

Your Twin Flame does not have an Identikit poster attached. There is no character profile. When you look up info on social media sites (which you will, because you'll have to) you'll find people telling you that certain kinds of people can't be Twin Flames, that Twin Flame love doesn't include such-and-such, that if you encounter X you haven't met your TF, and other claims from the soapbox of Divinity that you can freely dismiss as utter junk. Anyone can be a Twin Flame. Your journey can include anything at all. Love has a right of passage to every single heart of every livinng thing, so don't question its validity if you've found yourself stuck with a love that fits the TF picture, or even if you think you may have just met someone who ticks the appropriate boxes. There's a rite of passage to Source, and if Destiny handed you a ticket, be prepared for a nice long trawl through the abyss of your soul where you'll figure out what makes you who you are, and learn to love that, too.  

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It's all here in a song, Across the Borderline. This picture of a Quetzal is on the front of the CD, thanks to Claudia Avendano in Guatemala. The first track on the album is called Two Steps Forward. But it's a bit long, at five minutes, and most people probably wouldn't have the patience. Too many chorus repeats. Too much of everything, really. Bring on the Spice Girls.

Quantum principles to look up:  
Entanglement, non-locality, wave-particle duality....  and crucially, uncertainty. You never know what's going to hit you next.