Before experiencing the onslaught of a twin-flame dynamic, I'd never heard of it so never looked it up. My friend Nix mentioned it as she'd found references to this phenomenon on Facebook and knowing some of my story she'd found correlations there. Even so, it was some time before I found anything significant myself as by that time the train-wreck had taken place, the scrabbling to act sensibly in the face of a feeling you just don't understand had dissolved into a pantomime of lies and stand-offs. When she told me it existed, I was thoroughly swamped by the painful destruction which absence and denial of contact inevitably brings. Not appreciating that the pathway to be carved requires a dissolution of self, I was engulfed by confusing paradoxes of blame and guilt, hurled into past-future anxieties and tearing myself to bits in the hope of a healing process. For a long time, I questioned the reality of this phenomenon and dared not delve too deeply into researching it.
Today, on Summer Solstice 2016 which coincides for the first time since 1948 with a full moon, I read an article on Twitter illuminating the three main factors which to me make sense of the phrase ‘twin-flame dynamic'. Firstly and primarily, each has to lift the other. In most cases, twin flames deal with the ravages of long-distance relationships. The tests this entails can lead to a convoluted maze of searching for answers, and frustration in failure to find any. Secondly, to reach an equilibrium, neither must be dependent on the other for only through personal independence can the ‘lifting' be achieved.
The third factor which resonated with me was the exchange of thoughts. Twins cannot keep their minds off each other and seem to be grafted together at all times, which is overwhelming and disconcerting, not to mention inconvenient. As time moves through various tests and lessons in the dynamic, this telepathy becomes expected, and has to be managed in such a way as to be integrated into daily living with minimal disruption. That the crossing of thoughts was in my case accentuated by sensations, which in the process of development seemed to ‘bounce' from one to the other in some kind of electron exchange, only confirmed its reality. In back-engineering the mechanics of the mental/physical connection, the best energy available to describe its foundations would be ‘non-local telekinetic'. Non-locality has naturally to be a primary quantum contributor to the creation and development of twin-flame relationships, as it allows for connectivity irrespective of spacial distance.
Should you experience, as I have, the strange sensation of someone ploughing through your grave rather than quietly walking over it, complete with goose-bumps and a fiery 'rush' that goes straight through your body, you'll know with absolute certainty where that feeling comes from, and that it's happening in a moment wherein you two are connected in thought, if nothing else.
There is no coming-to-terms with how a twin-flame relationship ought to be, for there is no rule book on this one, which may be why it appears important at the beginning to give it boundaries and make attempts at review. None of which, I promise, will make the slightest bit of difference in how things pan out for you. Despite the anguish in separation, the human dynamic needs a chance to calibrate a level of energy production without blowing itself to bits. I could accept that the past and future had merged to make this reality without contravening spacetime laws. Time waves propagate from past (retarded) and future (advanced) simultaneously to form the Present, after all. All the lessons learned in studying the quantum world came into play as I struggled to make sense of nonsensical events occurring in my existence for real.
My TF had a better idea of how to approach certain problems than I did, but in other respects I had ideas that were more in keeping with what was. But that was then, and this is now, and by the time this is read, I have no idea what the uncertainty principle will have delivered! I write as I think, and think as I write, which is presumably why writing is important. If I'm going through this stuff first-hand, a lot of other people are going through it too, and right now we can be grateful to be living in the state of global flux which signifies such major changes on the planet. We know things are happening on the larger scale even if we've no idea what those things are, and to be alive at all at this time is something of a privilege. We can't expect life to be easy, we can only hold to the promise that it will be worth it for the living, and however we come to love, we have to make our lives the better for it, and learn how to circumvent the darknesses of fear. Being absent is not necessarily treating you badly. Whatever we may believe of another person, it's very much up to us to treat ourselves well.
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Kathy is the author of Quantumology. She met up with quantum mechanics in 1997, pledging allegiance to its sources thereafter. These are her personal thoughts and testimonies.