Let's just say we have a soul. Science doesn't know what it is and religions think it belongs to them, but whatever it is, if you don't think you've got one you're on the wrong website. The entire skipping-zone of physics-to-metaphysics validates a soul, a non-physical element of the Self that doesn't die. You want to argue with Roger Penrose, be my guest.
So in the having of a Soul, we have to account for it in the course of daily life. The Soul isn't something you fetch out on a prayer mat or introduce before dinner, it's an inescapable, unaccountable presence, which is why religions want it so badly and science is still arguing as to whether it's actually real. In some circles, train of thought goes that the Soul can be shared between two bodies, that these Twin Flame people you've seen me banging on about for a while are in fact the same soul in different suits.
I don't see how this can be the case, as to my mind our individuality isn't only skin-deep - the Soul is individual too, indivisible in particle format because it has a core of itself, a Singularity, and you can't share a singularity. Two singularities equal one big explosion, which might explain a lot of the TF stuff that goes on these days, but doesn't explain the survival of the participants.
Learning curves are steep. We've had to plunge into more than one of those Dark Nights of the Soul to be able to grasp in any way, shape or form what it means to Get Over It. Those who've Got Over It could be called GOIters, so here's a new term - Goiters, those who've got over a Dark Night of the Soul and survived to help others who aren't too sure whether they're going to make it to shore against the cold and the dark, helpless on the endless sea where the Dark Night will get you if it can, and hold you as long as ... as long as .///.. something wants to be held.
You'll have seen through Harry Potter and Indiana Jones that there are times when you have to trust in something you cannot see. Indie had to step onto a bridge that apparently wasn't there, and Harry has done so many Trust the Invisible tricks that I can't remember any of them. We are not who our Souls are, or even who we think we are; we're a version of our Soul living out an earthly existence that colours judgement and belief through a series of circumstances beyond our control into creation of patterns only the subconscious really knows are there. Soul is invisible, by and large, with exceptions. When a Dark Night strips you of your senses, which it effectively does while it's downloading its information, all that junk DNA they used to tell of is merrily being rewired from your experience.
If you have a TF who is completely different from you, the likes of whom you wouldn't be seen dead with under 'normal' circumstances, who behaves and appears to think in ways that horrify you beyond redemption, take heart. What you're really in love with, soul to soul, is a long way from that being you've encountered in the 3D living rooms. There's an ethereal source behind Who That Person Is - you knew each other this way before you met, that's how you know who they are better than you know yourself. The one most determined to control the sequence of events becomes a Runner, because that's all they can do. The one who hasn't a clue what's going on and hasn't wondered whether they control anything is the Chaser, because that's all they can be. Eventually you stop the endless merry-go-round because it's pointless, and you step off on your way to becoming a Goiter. Wherever you are, take a break to reflect on who it is you love, because you won't see much evidence in memory files, you'll find it in the way you feel now, the way you always felt, and the way you want to feel. That's it. Beyond the shadows, there came a dream....