In the book Real Magic by Dr Wayne Dyer, he speaks of balance in relationships being achieved by taking ‘right' and ‘wrong' out of the equation. Fighting for resolution on the assumption that one party is wrong, which by force of nature would naturally be the other party, unless one is punishing oneself which of course is the other side of the permanently spinning coin, is a shot to nothing.
When we love, we know what it is, in the most straightforward sense of knowing. We cannot love two people in the same way, that would go against the grain of uniqueness and violate the Uncertainty Principle. In the inner core of our singularity, there is a filing system which contains all the relationships we have ever had, and the singularity accesses that file any time we think of the person concerned. The singularity knows, without needing to question, what that relationship comprised of on the deepest emotional level. Being creatures of habit, we access that emotional level only in the ways we are pre-programmed to do.
Undoing our inner programming, particularly in terms of ‘the way things should be' is a task in itself. Rebuilding circuitry to accommodate new and better versions of wiring is, however, a skill attributed within the force of nature since nature wants to grow, and the Universe wants information. Perhaps it's time to reassess relationships altogether, to correct our assumptions that there is ever a right or a wrong, and put it all down to the fact that misunderstanding is a natural feature of men and women, as matter is a feature of antimatter, and vice versa. Sparks fly - matter and antimatter annihilate on contact, energy is created, the light of the sun comes from this process (among others). The more power, the more energy, the higher the voltage. Learning from relationships means learning about ourselves, in the face of whatever either party may throw, so the only thing we can really rely on as truth within the beauty is the part of our singularity that knows, and makes the mind think accordingly. When we do what we then do from the best of intention, we can only blame ourselves for the things that don't, in reality, have any blame attached to them. The Universe hasn't got time to blame anything in questing for information.
Kathy is the author of Quantumology. She met up with quantum mechanics in 1997, pledging allegiance to its sources thereafter. These are her personal thoughts and testimonies.